fun

Hi!

Today I'm doing everything instead of writing my thesis! It really should be banned!

I'm waiting for any ideas maybe it's not as simple as it seems to be!  Why am I using so many exclamation marks? Well, it doesn't matter.

I love Christmas time. For some people it is only the time when you have to cook, clean, hoover, dust, go shopping etc. But for me it is a lot more that those activities.

We, as a family, love spending time together. I think this is the time of the year that gives us the possibility to sit down, play board games and just chill and having fun without any problem. It is hard for me because every two years I skip Christmas Eve as I go to my boyfriend's house. They are great people but still, it's the time when I feel that I need to be with my family and I feel like I'm missing something.  On the other hand, they have a completely different style of spending Christmas, other traditions, even food differs so every year is like a huge surprise for me. Nevertheless, the following day is always so pleasant for me as we go to my place and everything seems to be as It should be.

well, this year I'm actually doing nothing and trying to relax before going back to Poznań.
It's a pity that this Christmas hasn't been white but I can always go for a walk without thinking about coming back because of the cold.

See ya soon!

piece by piece

So we have another weekend and I wanted to tell you something more about making friends.

If you want to be really successful in whatever you want to come up with you definitely shouldn't give up on trying!

Let's be completely sincere. How many times do you think about being mean to the others just because it may be funny in some sort of twisted way?

The third level of communication is about that truth.

Talk about your ideas. In these conversations I begin to reveal more details about me. They can be political ideas, about society or about how in my way of thinking the things should work. This level is very mental and consists of not involving the others. Therefore, it can become a productive talk made of monologues, since it is not necessarily about talking about the others. It is more personal and subtle yet only ideas!. On the other hand, we cannot forget that the fourth one is reserved for the closest friends and family so at this level will not be concluded most important and privet subjects.

Be original, be respectful but first of all be spontaneous! 

And you will never be considered dull.

Have a nice week!

season full of joy

It was a really enjoyable weekend for me.

 My friend from Torun went and we had an amazing time together! One thing that I can be angry about is that I don't know any place here where one can spend a night without going to the wild party.
 So when we actually did go to the city center we spent 40 minutes going around and thinking where to enter. Then we spent a lovely evening drinking mulled wine in a cozy restaurant named Domo or something like that I really don't remember and it doesn't matter now. 

We laughed a lot and had a really fantastic time without thinking about work or university life. It was so wonderful! 

On the other hand, there's that one little thing that bothers me a lot. I have a small passion, maybe it isn't the thing that I would die for but I love doing it and it makes me soooo happy. Unfortunately, every single time that I do it I feel like a sucker (sorry for that but it is the best word that comes to my mind now).

 As a result, it makes me feel down that I am just not able to be as good as I always wanted and I can't enjoy that anymore maybe it is an embarrassment or other crapy feeling but it is awful. Do you know that feeling? that you fancy doing something, just like it, but you are not good at and you try and tray persistently but later on just knock it off? Why sometimes we can't just switch it off and continue, just enjoying it no matter who or what?

 I wish it could change one day.

 Well, I am quite happy about my weekend so I leave you now because my Spanish lesson is about to start

See ya!

communication part 2

MORE INFORMATION

Hi!

today I'm going to blabber you some more about the beauty of communication. We should never give up trying to be better in your communication skills no matter with whom you work or have to deal!

Let me tell you a clever something about it: 

So, we have the famous five levels of conversation and first of them is the one that helps you with your personal relationships

my advice here is:

 If you want to have a good relationship, just be authentic, smile, say everything that is on your mind, don't hesitate

Second level. Talk about the others. It is also a superficial conversation, but it has a pinch of sophistication.

 In this case, we repeat what others have said, whether at home or in a book, without contributing anything of our own experience. We repeat smart comments, readings or quotations without making any kind of assessment. 

But be careful!

 In this second level, gossip is also included :) which, of course, can be nice or funny but sometimes it is possible to trigger a war as well :)

communication level 1

There are conversations that fill us and others that leave us empty. There are people that talking to is a pleasure and others who could make sleepy even a sheep. And all this is related to the levels of communication that is between us and our partner,  friends or at work. Let's see what are the five possible levels of conversation to see in which situation we usually are with the people around us.

First level. Talking about things, football, time ... It is a superficial conversation, but sometimes necessary when you meet someone or you are in an elevator for instance. We do not start revealing our life details to the neighbor in the room. At this level we talk about time, what did we eat or what did we see in the last trip to Italy. The problem appears when a couple can speak only and exclusively of this type of things. We feel emptiness, especially when we have moments when we need to tell something that affects us.

Then there occurs the problem. We cannot hide our feelings and we are ashamed because of the lack of connection. Why is it so important? Because it is crucial when you really need to talk to someone and it’s your partner or best friend and the other side has nothing to comment. 

 Let’s talk about nothing, it’s always better than not talking. But does this rule always work? I don’t think so.

Next week, there will be MORE INFORMATION about more information that we can communicate.

Bye!

music

Why music is so important in our lives?

I think that it is related to some kind of childhood time.  Maybe it is because it's one of the things that we are used to from the beginning.  I couldn't imagine my life without music. It helps me get rid of bad feelings, when I'm happy it makes me want to scream and shout, there is nothing better than a good piece of music!

On the other hand, while watching a film I always think about the soundtrack. It is crucial for me.  But after a long, stressful day  I really enjoy an hour without a sound. Silence is great when you cannot piece your mind together. When I was younger I used to read a book or study with loud music now it is completely different as I am not able to concentrate with sounds around me.
How is it possible that your customs change?

 There is a great possibility that it is connected to the decrease of efficiency. Everything distracts me when I'm not 100% focused on what I'm doing in that moment.

So music is great but not always. Is anyone able to live without it?

workworkwork

I try my best to have everything under control but sometimes it's not that easy!

Somewhere I read that you won't be successful in your work if you can't get your things together but it seems obviously hard to manage if there's autumn outside, your friends are busy because it's their last year and your family's like 300km from you. 
So what are the rules that you should follow in case you're exhausted and there is no free time?

Try to stay concentrated no matter what you do at work
avoid unnecessary conversations, you can catch up some gossips while eating lunch

Learn how to say no. This is the crucial point. If someone gives you an extra work you don't have to be always nice and cool and take everything without blinking.

Work as a team. There is no better way to handle a difficult matter as working with your workmates

Try to not get distracted by social webs like facebook.  You will be more focused and you will not lose the thread.

The same story with the news. Don't read them at work, let yourself do it when going back home or when you have a free while for you.

What about emails? sort them from the most relevant to less. Do not respond to e-mails that are from your family or friends. That will not save your time at work and it can certainly wait.


Hope you will not get distracted anymore!
xx

green leaves

I just need a coffee!

Coming back to Poznań wasn't very easy for me. I was spending my free time on the beach, or searching new, beautiful places for a walk with my dog ( he likes huge spaces like forests where he can just run without any obstacles) 

It results that there are so many places that I haven't been to in my neighborhood.  When I was living in Gdynia I thought nothing could surprise me because I knew that place like the back of my hand. But when you have a google map in your hand ( or maybe phone) it's really probably that you will find out about some new places like holy spring in the middle of the nearest forest.

  I think I'm getting older because I started to appreciate the peaceful sound of silence when I have a moment when I'm alone.  Every time when I want to read something not related to my university something appears and the possibility goes away. 

 I'm trying not to give up and keep on swimming like Ellen use to say, but with this whole autumn atmosphere, it's getting even harder. 

Thank God I have my friends :)

I never know how to name my posts, maybe any bits of advice?

Boa whoa woah

Just a quick note about my holidays.

I had a lot of free time to spend it as I wanted. Unfortunately time flies amazingly fast so all my plans that I Had made before went to oblivion. Thanks God I could rest and recharge my batteries for the upcoming universitary year.  THIS year is very special because of the fact that it's the last one at this university. I hate saying that but I got used to study. I could even say that I like studying and what's more I can't imagine my life without it. But what will the future bring only God knows.

If you have a spare hour you should see American film "the help" it is about Black Woman's situation in the United States. Maybe a little bit dramatic but definitely worth seeing. There was a horrible time for them when no one treated them as a human beings. What remains me to say is that it makes one reflect about what we have and how we disappreciate it.

Have a nice season with me!

weddings

My school friend is getting married.  There is a time in our lives that we think we have absolutely everything. But then something happens and we start reconsidering our goals.

 I think that moment has come now in my life.  Yesterday called me my friend and said that the other friend is getting married. Shall we go? Maybe.  

And something just awful came to my mind… why is she getting married? Is she happy? Doesn’t she want to travel, have fun and have time for herself?

When Have I started to think in such a strange way? What has changed? I don’t know.  If you had asked me like 3 years ago what I wanted I would probably said that I wanted a family, a husband, child, a dog… but now?  I want to visit places, learn languages and be spontaneous! But can I do all of it when I’m married? I don’t think so. 

They say that once you start learning languages your perspective changes and as a matter of fact,  I think that it makes you even a different person.  Sometimes you even realize that if it’s not about  an another language lover person, no one else wouldn’t understand you.

Maybe that’s why I don’t understand why are everybody getting married now!

Food

I love eating. I think that it’s the best thing that can happen to you when you’re angry/sad/happy/want to celebrate something/craving/anything else.

Last Friday came my boyfriend to spend weekend with me. He’s a strict meat-eater and let’s say meat-lover!!! I can assure you that he couldn’t live even a week without meat. Me, on the other hand, I don’t like meat very much but I can say that we always try to balance when it comes to that matter.  Anyways, this weekend we have had to choose between some restaurants that Poznań offers us and my favourite one is a vegan one. 

So what have I done?  I tried to trick him in some kind of way, as he, besides meat, loves sushi, I told him that we have to go and try a new place where they serve sushi,  but in a unique way. So he was excited ( so I was because of my wicked plan) and there we went! 

I ordered a Mexican plate and it was a mix of vegetables, fried banana, 2 different salsas and some Mexican bread. I loved it and so my boyfriend did! His sushi ( Japanese plate) was heavenly delicious, but it was made of vegetables and tofu.

 I wouldn’t exaggerate if I said that he was flattered. In front of us we had two different, of course vegan, plates and both were amazing! 

 Till the end of our lovely dinner he didn’t figure it out that it was a vegan restaurant. Later he had to assume that even if we don’t order meat, the dish can obviously be tasty.

What can I say? If you haven’t tried something please don’t try to convince me that it HAS TO be awful.

If you want to try it on your own:

Wypas Poznań is that place!

P.S I had a really nice weekend what about you guys?

Take care

The w word

Lately, I´ve been inspired  by my english class and I want to share with you some reflexions.

First of all Is it really possible to treat women as a worse/weaker/inferior individual? Maybe you will say I’m a racist but I hate that in muslim countries. They still treat women like if they were their slaves and what’s more, they, through  years and years, got used to this so it’s now part of their tradition. I can’t stand it how can they be so obedient and change, well you cannot change something that always has been like that but no matter, for your men. 

Where’s  this beautiful image of love and happiness  showed in Bollywood movies?

One day I watched a lovely publicity on youtube, it was Italian. At the beginning they asked small Italian boys to describe a sweet, young European girl.  

They were obviously ashamed but loads of sweet words came out of their mouths.  On the next step they were encouraged  to touch and caress her cheek and they did that with serous pleasure.

Trouble started when they consequently were asked to hit her  and suddenly they petrified. There was no way to touch her in that way for them. Why?

 No one knows. This is just the amazing child delicacy and subtlety. Why and where it disappears later when they get to the awful period of puberty?

Anyways… I was blabbering about women and women rights wasn’t I? I think that it’s horrible that we live in such a developed world and society and as a women we can still feel worse that the other sex. 

being happy

I’m pondering about clothing. 

I’m not the person who loves shopping though.  Every single day when I get up I try to put on something that will make me feel  comfortable and warm all day long. I can’t say that I’m good in this kind of things like matching stuff but there are things that make me happy I guess. 

My obsession is buying new shoes, I have loads of pairs specially trainers, sport shoes and high heels (which I don’t really wear often). But trousers? Shirts? I used to buy many dresses but not anymore as I realised that I didin’t actually wear any of them.

 My huge problem is that when I finally go to the shop I can’t find anything that would please me. Maybe I’m too picky but fashion is horrible! 

 Why shirts can’t be just shirts without all those prints, short lengths and so on? 

When I was younger I tended to put on something that would seem nice for people which I was dating or I was hanging out with that time. I’m not that kind of person anymore. 

The whole idea of dressing for someone is pointless I think. We should wear things that are comfy. The other matter is that it should be warm when it’s cold outside. I think that I won’t exaggerate when I say that buying too short jacket is simply foolish. Maybe you will look great in front of your friends but freezing is the worst thing that can happen I guess…

So as a consequence let’s say that being a teenager is a very nasty thing.

Nature

I'm writing this post from the park's bench. Sun is shining and I'm reconsidering my life as always when I'm surrounded with nature and all by myslef.
Birds are chirping, what a lovely word isn't it?

I love spring especially when it's not so cold, you're not freezing and there is loads of things to do besides watching tv series in your bed. But... stop! Where's my energy gone? Last year this time I was riding my bike, exploring city and running at least 3 times a week. What has changed?
Maybe I work more.. maybe the circumstances aren't as they should be...
Well even though I'm really grateful for my friends and time spent while having fun.
MY feeling related to the water are so intesive! I love being near to the river, sea, oceans, even those small water springs!!!
Why is it so incredibly awsome for me?
I appreciate every minute spent in a place where the lake or sea is.

Tomorrow will be different day I suppose. Don't let negativity take control over you life and hopes. There is still something special waiting for you.

 Nothing else left, push the boundaries!

Love,
A

Holiday's rush

Travelling.

After 40 days spent in Poznań I was so glad to come back home. Wednesday was the last day at university so I had plenty of time to pack my things and get ready for the travel. I had booked my train ticket like 3weeks earlier and couldn't wait to see my mum and my doggie.

Then finally came that day, I got up early as the train was leaving at 8:36 am, I didn't have got any bread so I had to go to the shop and almost missed train but when I got to the station I was very enthusiastic I thought that nothing would destroy my happiness. Unfortunately then my bad luck started to show up. I Couldn't sit with my friend as we founded out that computer had booked us different places... then the train was late ( but this is a standard situation though) and then when I finally got to Gdynia it was raining all day long. But I managed to take my dog and go for a walk to the sea and that cheered me up a little bit. Thanks God it's Easter!

I wish you all the best! 

Why are weekends so short now?

Why are weekends so short now? When has it changed in that way? Why do I always ask so many questions when I write about something?

I don’t know the answers but truly? I’m quite disappointed with myself. I used to be active, spend whole days on preparing materials and doing my homework just developing my skills but now I can’t even focus on most important things. 

When I feel quite sure about my grammar skills in Spanish suddenly it comes out that there are many things that  I actually don’t know or forgot. I hate the fact that I supposedly study what I love and I do what really interests me but on the other hand I cannot say that I’m fully satisfied.  I came here with some plans, new city, new university, maybe new job? Yes, but later I found out that I neither couldn’t study translation nor the language part of Spanish philology.

 So I was forced to study literature what ok let’s say I like it but not as much as I like other things in Spanish. Now I feel like I’m starting to hate Spanish because the only thing I have to do is reading reading and once more reading and sometimes write some kind of essay about what I had read previously. I’m disappointed because I thought it would be fun studying Spanish but now results that we don’t have much practise but loads of theory instead.

So they say go and study what you really love. I wouldn’t do that again.  If you love something don’t study it, because it will definitely kill your passion.

Quick update: It would be so unfair of me saying that everything and everybody  will kill your passion at the University. There are some profs and classes that are super interesting and motivating  so I can say thank you and that I’m utterly grateful for your input. 

boring times

Sometimes I feel like my work is killing me.  Basically I love teaching Spanish and working with people. It fulfils me with energy and even if I have a bad day, since I go to work I come back with new power.

But there are moments when I really hate it. Especially when I say ok let’s prepare some exercices for them, they will be so happy with their new tasks to complete. But it turns out ( in the most of cases) that what makes me feel great about learning languages is not as fantastic for my students.

There are two cases that  I cannot stand. One of them Is someone who makes you question your knowledge or simply asks so many questions about vocabulary that you start considering yourself a dictionary. Well my dears I’m not one and I will never know all these words you are asking me about. Or in different words, yes I may know this vocabulary but it happens that right now, in this moment I will not be able to recall it. 

So please don’t ask me questions like ‘but how can we say jaki kraj taki obyczaj or wybrzeze kości słoniowej’ when I try to focus and teach you preterito perfecto.  Yes, dictionaries exist and even I consult them sometimes. And no, it doesn’t mean that being teacher means that you can’t be wrong sometimes!

On the other hand we have another hopeless case. KIDS.  

When you have in the same group 6,9,11 years old and they are 15 individuals in the same room and you have to (or you are downright) trying to get control over them. 

Sound like mission impossible?

 Yes it, indeed is. 

Small kids can’t write yet  and can’t read so all they want to do is playing and singing songs and colouring but the others? They are bored and tired and try to imagine what does it mean to be there trying not to yell and just finding the rest of your forces to teach them something. 

And all you want to hear in that moment is…

Can I go to the bathroom? I don’t want to write it down… How much time  do I have to sit here? Is there any reward for it?

And when you think that it is completely meaningless and after making up games, songs, and everything what can come to your mind, all of a sudden, you hear: I love it! 

Now I can tell my mum some words in Spanish!

....

And there’s nothing left but smiling.

Have fun!

Aga

story about nothing

I love learning new song by heart!

I think that there’s no better way of learning new vocabulary than listening to new songs. When I was younger and I had to remember all those new words because my english teacher was very strict I was always trying to find a song that would help me. It wasn’t a piece of cake though.

My brain is a tricky thing.  Everytime, when I start learning new language, something wrong happens: I feel like my brain was erasing the one I previously was learning.  That unfortunately happened with french which I was learning in secondary school, then with english when I started to become familiar with spanish… why is it so mean to me?

Then I figured it out ! I have to being in a constant contact with both languages! There is no possibility to leave behind one of them.

Now I’m trying to be a smart-ass! Even when I don’t have much time to read in English or to learn some new words ( what indeed would help me now as I feel like all the English words had disappeared of my brain) I try to watch something. It can be my favourite serie’s episode or a movie doesn’t matter, it counts.

My friends are talking about some geek mobile phone’s applications but I’m not very into it. I have a great luck of living with my bestie, it works better than any application though.  Firstly, each of us makes a list with words that we have to remember and then we talk about them, make questions and quizzes for the other one. Sometimes it’s frustrating as there’s always one of us that have a better day and memorizes them like a supernova but still, we have a lot of fun.

Well, I’m running out of ideas so I guess it means that the end of this post is imminent.

Take care!

Winter holidays

Yes I know that this post is a little bit delayed but still counts doesn't it?

Now my time is soooo fulfilled that I don't have time for anything. I'm so glad that sundays are free for me and I can literally do nothing.

So I wanted to post my note now, well maybe I don't find it overwhelmingly interesting, I'm not in mood :)

This is the time when I don’t have time for nothing, just running between work, university and trying to keep up with my home duties, meeting my friends in the meantime. I try to focus on the most important things such as family, education but it’s really hard!

Ok let’s stop pretending. I love watching films and series and that’s why I can’t manage time to do something constructive.  Then I fall into some kind of paradox.  When I have too much free time I want to have it more, but then, when it happens that there’s no need  to read, write and prepare materials for work I don’t really know what to do with myself. So I’m being unbearable or I complain on everything…

What’s wrong with us? Why do we always want the opposite? If I have too much free time I want to work then when I’m in a constant rush I dream about being at home.

Here’s the situation. I’ve been querulous all the time because of the lack of spare time and because  every day I had to do something related with my university. Now, when I have 2 weeks  of holidays and I can finally stay at home, do nothing, meet with my friends I cant! Why? Because I’m too lazy to do so.  Or I’m too tired because of doing nothing.

Ok. that’s all for today. Hope You had wonderful time! During your winter holidays. Or maybe you’re working  as I have to J

Green heaven

Hi! 

Today I want to to share with you with my favourite places in Northern Ireland. I will divide this post in 3 or 4 parts because they are ( in my opinion) utterly interesting. I'd like you to travel with me through this amazing country and part of the world. 

Ok let's stop this blabbering and get to the point.

Norther Ireland, with its capital Belfast is situated by the ocean. As you probably have seen on photos and you may know from tv advertisements, its shockingly and vividly green and all the views are breathtaking and unforgettable once you already get there. I could even say (besides some exemptions) that it's pure and untouched. 

First things first I may say that there are things that astonished me from the begging. I lived in the norther part of Northern ireland, in Colerain which, with two other cities, are named Threecity just like our polish equivalent. One of them ( of the things that suprised me the most of course) was that if you like to, you can get to the beach with your own car. Literally, you can actually  kind of park your car on the beach. Irish people do that very often and what's more, they even bring barbecues and spend there their spare time with friends and family throwing the party! Unfortunately, the ocean is horribly cold even in summer so if you don't have a wetsuit you will probably freeze, well unless you're a winter swimmer (in polish mors).

But landscapes including the ocean are brilliant. Clear, blue water, white sand and green fileds with adorable sheeps everywhere.

Are you feeling excited yet?

you should be. And it's just the beginning.

Holding on or letting go?

Do you have habit of keeping useless things? 

Have you ever tried to say good bye to these old, full of dust things hidden on the bottom of your wardrobe?

If your answer is yes let me give you some advice.

Old shoes? Dirty, too small, old-fashioned dress? 

Just stuff that you don’t use anymore but still can’t throw it out. Maybe in your basement we could find 3 or 4 desks, because you just can’t imagine your life without them? Stop!  You can’t do it anymore. 

That day that you are waiting for to use them again will NEVER come!

Never.

I know it’s hard but it’s scientifically proven that if you do it, it is very probable that you will have a problem with holding grudges too.   And remember, holding grudges is like letting someone live  rent-free in your head.

That point  also works perfectly for your emotions. You will never be able to move on, without sadness and fears and this is against your prosperities.

Now listen, you have to make a space in your house, and accordingly in your mind, to help new opportunities come and fill the empty space.

Collecting useless things implies the possibility of lack and it’s halting your life against the development.

So now, stand up, clean up your closets, wardrobes, your garage throw away all the stuff that has lost its validity and value. Forgive and get away of all the things that are stopping you from being happy.

Set yourself free of all emotions and feelings that are related to people who have already disappeared of your life. 

Let the new things to come in!

Now remember:

The day you stop worrying will be the first day of your new life; anxiety takes  you in circles, trust in yourself and become free

~Leon Brown.

why you should start jogging?

Regular running provides many healthful benefits this is the fact that everybody knows.

but...

This kind of aerobic exercise contributes to the improvement of your overall well-being by strengthening your immune system, as well as, increasing your lungs capacity. Moreover, it raises levels of good cholesterol in your body what obviously helps to reduce the risk of having a heart attack. 

Now something what is commonly known, but maybe it will help you get up of your sofa!

Regular running is a great way to lose weight. As any other physical activity, it boosts your metabolism and when it’s combined with a balanced diet it helps your body burn more calories and it brings significant results.

 Another advantage of running is more psychological, considering the fact that it helps eliminate depression and even though it requires time, it reduces stress.

 Your body is producing more happiness hormones due to the fact that after 20 minutes of running, your level of dopamine is growing.

If you still don't get it just have a look at this buddy:

So! If you want to stay in shape, regular running can help you to deal with this. In addition, it provides your heart and cardiovascular system a lot of benefits. So if you hate doctors as much as I do that's What you should do and i can assure you that running will surely prevent you from depression.